Sunday Reflections

          I was talking to a friend tonight and one of the big things that him and I discussed is being able to be content with yourself. How it is so very important to make sure that you are happy and you know who you are and what you need. This could be related to many aspects of life, what job will be best for you, what kind of person you need to date etc. Looking back and realizing that you haven't always been yourself or happy is hard but now what are you going to do about it? What is your next step?
          I talked to him about how it was hard for me for the longest time to look at the fact that I was not finished with school when I had been on the track to finish over a year early. I had beat myself up about it and then it hit me, the time that I had taken off of school was time that I took to progress in ways that might not have earned me my degree from a university, but I was able to earn my personal degree. I was able to find myself and figure out the things that make me happy, and what I personally need in life. It was so very important for me to have taken that time off of school to find myself that now looking at it I would never change it. I was able to grow and strengthen myself as an individual. So even though it was not the path I had first chosen for myself it was the best path for me.
        Of course we had to talk about one of my least favorite subjects... Dating. (Gag me now) But really it wasn't that bad of a talk. So we discussed the importance of finding some one who has the same kind of square that will fit perfectly with yours. This could be your spiritual needs, emotional, or physical needs, but all in all you need someone who will be on the same page as you. The thing that we all want is for the person we want to want us too. Therefore this being easier said than done, if you like someone show it, they will find time to spend with you if they really want to be with you and you will find time for them no matter how busy you both are with work etc, do not make excuses it is as easy as that. No games should be played. Just be honest with them and tell them how you feel (I am the worst at this one). It is also important that you can find someone that you can converse with and that you can continually feel uplifted with. Like for me I have found that I personally need someone that I can talk to about sports, the gospel, something new I have learned or some interesting facts that intrigue me, but not only that I can talk to them about these things, but they can talk to me about them too. It cannot be a one way conversation. Also that I do not feel the need to always entertain them with conversation that I can enjoy their company just by being around them.
       Another topic we discussed is about how the Lord is there for us, but he isn't the one who is creating the situations we are in. We have used our free agency and that is why we have gone through the things that we have. The Lord has helped us work through those decisions after we have made them, whether they be good or bad. The whole reason why we are here is to have free agency. I have heard so many people ask why has the Lord let this happen to me? That isn't what we should be asking. What we should be doing is realizing that it wasn't the Lord doing this to us it was our own actions or an action from someone who is around us. We need to focus on what the Lord has done for us after these situations, how has he been able to help us push through or understand what occurred? It is our life, our decisions and the Lord is there to help us work through those decisions that we have made.
        We skipped around many topics tonight and it was so great to be able to talk about life. It is important to make sure that we are always progressing and are not keeping ourselves in a stand still. I feel that for me I need to always be trying to lift myself and learn new things. Each individual is different, we all have our own needs and wants. The importance of being able to find yourself and your happy place is number one. So taking a step back to reflect is a good thing, count your blessings, believe in yourself and always Trust Your Struggles for they are what make you... well YOU.